Sharon Lebowitz wrote an article for the Business Insider entitled, People use 8 Small Things … to judge your personality. Instantly, when people meet someone they begin to “size each other up” while looking for signs of qualities like honesty and intelligence. Therefore, anytime you meet someone remember that the small stuff matters. Even such things as the firmness of your handshake to how often you check your phone.
Sharon used a Quora thread entitled, “What are the really small things that tell a lot about a person’s psychology and personality?” and highlighted some of the most common behaviors people use to judge you.
Five (5) of the seven small things she listed resonated with me, however you can read the original article here.
1. Your handshake – Several Quora users admitted they judge people based on their handshake. “Strong handshakes usually reflect a strong and confident character, whereas weak handshakes usually indicate a lack of confidence and are almost always a characteristic of people who would look for an easy way to do things,” writes Julian Parge.
2. Whether you show up on time – Late for a very important date? The person who’s waiting may be forming a negative impression of your personality.
3. How you treat restaurant staff – Multiple users said they pay close attention to how other people interact with waiters.
4. How often you check your phone – An anonymous Quora user writes about noticing “where and when [people] pull their phones out (waiting in a short line, talking to their parents, being out with friends, when they’re alone in public).”
5. Whether you make eye contact – Munje says a limp handshake and a lack of steady eye contact “shows lack of self-control, required drive to follow through, and a weak will.” Alternatively, psychologist Adrian Furnham, Ph.D., writes in Psychology Today that extroverts tend to look more often and for longer at their conversation partners than introverts do. And in general, people who look at their partners more often are more confident and socially dominant.
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