The Business Insider published an article, 7 Things Successful People Do In Their 30s, based on some research by Mark Manson entitled, “10 Life Lessons To Excel In Your 30s” and noticed some recurring themes. Our 30s are typically are a time when we begin to get established and drop some of the risky or bad habits that may have characterized our 20s.
In our 30s, many of us focused on raising a family and building a career. In so doing, we may have neglected some important relationships and ignored opportunities they may never present themselves again.
Some of the common and recurring themes in Mark Manson’s are listed below along with some of the advice that he offered. If you wish to read the original articles click here.
1. They spend time with people who add value to their lives.
Manson collected over 600 responses from readers who have lived through their 30s, and one of the most common pieces of advice was to stop spending time with those who don’t treat you well and instead spend more time with loved ones. “Don’t just work. Make memories because the older you get, the harder it is to make meaningful relationships” said Microsoft product designer Michael Dorian Bach .
2. They pursue their loftier aspirations.
Twenty-somethings often begin their careers with big goals that they set aside to settle for a job they’re not passionate about. Before they know it, a temporary job becomes a career. The result is that they often become “addicted to a monthly salary,” in the sense that he or she chose job security over career satisfaction.
3. They don’t obsess about the future.
Manson recounts that one of the biggest lessons of his 20s was that there’s not a magical moment where you start feeling like an adult who has it all figured out. He was happy to learn that his older readers said the same thing about their 30s.”Unless you are already dead — mentally, emotionally, and socially, you cannot anticipate your life 5 years into the future. It will not develop as you expect. It’s healthy to have goals for you and your family, but don’t stress out over specifics.
4. They decide whether they want kids or not.
Kids certainly are not for everyone, but the majority of those who wrote to Manson or posted, said that they realized that putting off having children for an ideal situation is a bad idea. If you want to have kids, have them before it is too late. Stop using excuses such as, “You don’t have the time. You don’t have the money. You need to perfect your career first.”
5. They take care of their health.
With a growing list of responsibilities, one of the first things that is ignored or omitted is making exercise and healthy eating habits a priority. But think of putting forth a little effort in both areas as a long-term investment. “Be healthy. That is priority number 1. Don’t get into your 30s being slow and tired all the time. One of Mark’s research respondents said that, “at 41, I’ve got a list of physical complaints that might not have come about had I been healthier.”
6. They establish a financial foundation for the future.
Hopefully you used your 20s to figure out a way to pay back the student loan debt statistics say you most likely had after graduating, and also started saving. But if you hit 30 and you’ve set nothing aside, it’s not too late. By this point, though, you need to start saving for your retirement. Consider setting up an automatic investment in a 401k and/or other savings accounts.
7. They still enjoy themselves.
Just because you’re not in your 20s anymore doesn’t mean you need to stop having fun. One respondent, wrote that he spent most of his 30s chasing money, and it only made him unhappy and more cynical about life. Another recurring theme in Mark’s research was that none of the money you work hard to make matters if you’re not enjoying life.
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